spice it up with vanilla

 

Have you ever had a vanilla relationship? Have you done it as a kinky person? Because I have not, not since I learned what I need as far as a submissive. Yet here I stand before you, in the early days of a vanilla relationship, with a vanilla gal.

On that note, lets look at the term. vanilla is relative in my mind. Is there a specific line of not kinky enough to be absolutely vanilla? Or is it someone who is comparably less into kink stuff than the average lifestyler. Just as someone being “kinky” is pretty relative depending on who's asking.

So in the last few months I’ve gotten to know a young woman who comes to the local munch's. She’s funny, artistic, and very intelligent in conversation. She has one little quirk though. She identifies as “vanilla”. I call her a rebel for it, and adore it in her. She’s as kinky as many out there in the way she thinks and has little dominant style personality traits, but she doesn’t like to identify with labels like that. I have a lot of respect for that.

 

Furthermore, we’re exploring a relationship based on contemporary structure, the old girlfriend boyfriend scenario. It’s odd and refreshing for me. I haven’t had a contemporary relationship in a long time. It’s so nice to just concentrate on the get to know you and not be looking at things like dominant and submissive needs. I mean yeah, there are little quirks to it, and those needs do sorta show themselves. But me being me, I’m letting her set the pace and its just the basics for now. I rather love it. How will it go? Only time will tell.