So who else has family members involved in kink? Who else has had, or does have a heck of a time dealing with that fact and communication with the family member in question on that subject? Many have issues with this. I know I did, as someone very dear to me in my vanilla family turned out to be also kinky.
I know many others in this same boat, be it parent, child, sibling, etc. In my case it was a parent, and a matter of realizing they were into the same world I was when I was having trouble accepting myself for it.
Now I’ve heard many variations of this story, but what I understand it’s common for one to have a lot of confusing reactions when faced with the normalcy of being “different”.
I had a dramatic and unusual reaction, denial, and rejection. My parent tried to talk to me about things, as some of my interests were noticeable. I was animated, upset, and above all denied the whole thing. I even made some comments to refer to them as being abnormal and different for what they were implying.
A few years later I finally had the courage to accept myself, and to talk to them about who I was, and accepting who they were.
Since then we have had some amazing conversations about the lifestyle and even talked about important subjects. It is amazing to have that support.
This last weekend they came to visit, and I was able to introduce them to my friends in the community at a dinner. It was actually rather fascinating to see how they interacted with others of multiple age categories in the lifestyle. And in point of fact it was hilarious for me to see that my kinky parent has the same kink-radar I do and picked out who was dom, sub, switch, or other in the room just by observation. They only had one wrong. Hilarious how life works out.
No comments:
Post a Comment